The holiday season is one of the most stressful times of the year. Many people deal with anxiety and depression at this time. Add an unexpected pregnancy, and you have even more reason to feel overwhelmed.
Whether you enjoy time with family during the holidays or you dread the possibility, you are in control of the conversation about your pregnancy. Here are some steps you can take to maintain that control and protect yourself from unwanted pressure.
Set Boundaries for Yourself and Others
As you enter the holiday season, decide how much you want to share about your pregnancy. Boundaries are a part of self-care, and you have the freedom to set them for yourself and others.
Although it’s easier said than done, you should feel safe and not judged for your unexpected pregnancy. If nosy relatives pressure you for information, feel free to say, “I don’t wish to discuss it with you at this time.”
Clearly and directly let others know what you are and are not willing to talk about. Let the event host know that discussing your pregnancy is off-limits during the holidays if that’s what you wish. No matter how supportive they are, this is your story to tell, not theirs.
Pregnancy Symptoms Could Change Your Holiday Experience
Every woman experiences her pregnancy differently. Some women feel every symptom immediately, while others may not experience symptoms for weeks or months. Some of the symptoms that may affect you during the holidays include:
- Nausea with or without vomiting.
- Fatigue.
- Food aversions.
- Increased urination.
- Moodiness.
Establish physical and emotional boundaries. Give yourself the freedom to bow out of get-togethers or to leave early. You may not have the same amount of energy you had before pregnancy, so it’s vital to get the rest you need.
Pregnancy hormones can also affect your mood. If you become overly emotional, take a time out, excuse yourself, and leave early.
Have a Trusted Friend or Family Member Come Alongside You
Sometimes, just having someone you can trust with you is all the comfort you need. A close, trusted family member or friend can steer the conversation in another direction, or they can recognize when you need a break and suggest it’s time to go.
Let the Caring Advocates at Affirm Help You
Do you need advice on setting boundaries? We can help. Call us at (859) 575-7060 or schedule a free and confidential appointment. We understand how difficult an unexpected pregnancy can be, and the holidays can make it even harder, but we can help you.
We can discuss your situation, review your options, and help you navigate conversations with family and friends. We’re here for you and never want you to feel like you’re alone.